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Relationship Solutions
E-Newsletter
Table of Content
I.
Message from the Director
II.
Featured Article
IV.
Upcoming Event
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Message from the
Director
Welcome to another
edition of Relationship Solutions! February
is here and before you know it will be
March. Since February is such a short
month, it is very easy for it to pass us by
without even a blink of the eye. We all
need to make sure we slow down and take time
to smell the roses. Speaking of roses,
isn’t V-Day just around the corner? Of
course, we did not forget, in fact, we have
dedicated this month’s featured article to
being in a relationship and how to get the
sparks happening again (in case they have
been dying down). But, that is not
all, February 7th-14th
is Marriage Week USA and in celebration of
this, we are holding a two-hour Marriage
Toolbox Workshop in Garden City, Long Island
this upcoming Monday the 11th.
We plan to talk all about marriage myths,
expectations, challenges, and provide a
toolbox full of do-it-yourself types of
resources.
We hope that many of
you plan to join us on Monday evening and
look forward to the event. Until next time,
I wish you all peace and harmony in your
relationships!
Warmly,
Cari Sans
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Featured Article
National Marriage Week is
February 7 to 14
“Love is in the air…”
Open any newspaper or
enter any store in February and you will no
doubt find a plethora of materials that
focus on Valentine’s Day. Far be it from me
to be cliché, however I would be remiss if,
as a couples counselor, I did not address
the holiday.
First, a bit of
history. There are multiple legends
surrounding the establishment of Valentine’s
Day. The first one involves Roman Emperor
Claudius II who, during the third century,
decided that single men made better soldiers
than those with wives and families. As a
result, the Emperor outlawed marriage for
his potential soldiers. Allegedly,
Valentine, a priest, defied the Emperor and
performed marriages in secret; ultimately
being put to death for his act of betrayal.
Other legends about the holiday include
Valentine actually sending a love note
himself from jail to a lover, signing it
“from your Valentine.” Hence, the famous
phrase that appears on everything from
greeting cards to candy hearts.
Regardless of its
origins, Valentine’s Day as we know it is
one that is connected to romance, love and
joy. And what better time than this to
reflect on your own relationship with your
partner? Now is an opportunity to take
stock in where you are at and where you
would like to be. Maybe you are happy with
the current status of your relationship—good
for you! You are no doubt growing and
learning from each other day by day.
On the flip side,
perhaps you would like to get more connected
with your partner. Have no fear, this
column is designed to be the springboard to
get you back on track.
It is easy to get
“disconnected” as the years go by and the
focus of your primary relationship becomes
secondary. Children, careers, perhaps a
return to college can all lessen the time
and energy we are able to devote to our
couplehood. Although these other areas are
all very important, it is challenging to
achieve balance in the system when the core
(the couple) is not as strong as it once
might have been.
One way that you can
begin to strengthen your couplehood is to
start dating again. Yep, dating. Setting
aside a few hours a week to “just be” with
one another. This doesn’t have to entail
expensive dinners and bouquets of flowers—a
date can be anything you like. Perhaps it’s
a drive to the site of your first date, a
cup of coffee at your favorite spot, or
maybe it’s movie night in your bunny
slippers and pjs while the kids are at
grandma’s house.
Another way you can
strengthen your couplehood is to
reincorporate the little niceties that may
have gotten overlooked in past years. As
the song goes, “little things mean a lot,”
and a way to get back on track is to revisit
these. Perhaps it’s programming your
partner’s coffee to brew when s/he awakes or
warming her/his towel in the drier while
s/he is in the shower—have you ever had a
hot towel when you step out of the shower?
It’s heavenly.
These are just a few
ideas to springboard your journey to
becoming more connected. It is designed to
be just the beginning, so if you are
interested in working more deeply, feel free
to give us a call and we will be happy to
help you out further.
The happiest of
Valentine’s Days to you and cheers to your
recommitment to your relationship! And
remember, every day could be your
Valentine’s Day.
Tips to Getting and
Keeping Reconnected
1. Date your partner
2. Little things mean a
lot
3. Daily Temperature
Readings—“How was your day, dear?”
4. Check in monthly
about where you’re at in your relationship.
5. Come see us!
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Upcoming Event
Looking for a unique Valentine’s Day Gift?
Attend our Marriage Toolbox Workshop!
What you will gain by
attending this workshop:
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Knowledge of the different
myths around marriage
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An understanding of the
challenges that marriages face today
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Awareness of expectations on
marital satisfaction
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Ability to identify your
relationship “dance” and how this challenges
intimacy
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Tools for creating a
successful marriage
DATE: Monday, February 11, 2008
TIME: 6:30 p.m. to 8:30 p.m.
LOCATION: Garden City, NY
COST: $25 per couple, payable at door by
cash or check
Space is limited—Reservations
required
To RSVP, contact Andrea at
516-665-7889 x03 or via email at
andrea@couplesandfamilies.com
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