COUNSELING CORNER FOR MARRIAGE
AND FAMILY THERAPY, P.C.
3 Minute Communication Challenge
Test Your Relational IQ
Every couple has strengths (and blind spots).
Answer a few quick questions and discover your Connection Zone in just 3 minutes.
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1. When my partner talks, I usually…
a) Interrupt with my perspective.
b) Half-listen while thinking about something else.
c) Let them finish but don’t always respond thoughtfully.
d) Listen fully and reflect back what I heard.
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2. When I disagree with my partner, I tend to…
a) Shut down or avoid it.
b) Get defensive or argue my side.
c) Try to compromise but feel unsatisfied.
d) Stay calm, listen, and find common ground.
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3. When I share something vulnerable…
a) I keep it surface-level to avoid conflict.
b) I say it, but expect they won’t get it.
c) I share, but it sometimes turns into a fight.
d) I feel heard, supported, and safe.
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4. When conflict lingers between us…
a) I ignore it until it fades (or explodes).
b) I push for resolution, even if it’s messy.
c) I hope time will fix it.
d) We talk it through and repair as a team.
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5. Overall, I’d rate our communication as…
a) Pretty poor — we often misunderstand each other.
b) Hit or miss — sometimes great, sometimes painful.
c) Decent, but it could be stronger.
d) One of our biggest strengths.
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Scoring & Results
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Mostly A’s → Red Zone 🔴
Your communication patterns may be creating disconnection. The good news? With a few tools, you can completely shift this. -
Mostly B’s → Yellow Zone 🟡
You’re trying, but defensive or avoidant habits may be sabotaging intimacy. Small tweaks can create major breakthroughs. -
Mostly C’s → Green Zone 💚
You’ve got a solid foundation. With new strategies, you can take your communication to the next level. -
Mostly D’s → Gold Zone ✨
Amazing — you’ve built strong communication habits. Keep nurturing them and learning new ways to connect even deeper.
​Thanks for taking the 3-Minute Couples Communication Challenge!
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Who We Are
At Counseling Corner for Marriage & Family Therapy, P.C., we’re dedicated to helping you build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Founded and led by Cari L. Sans, M.A., LMFT, our practice draws on over two decades of experience supporting couples and individuals through life’s toughest transitions.
We understand that conflict, infidelity, life-cycle shifts, or feeling disconnected can be overwhelming. Our focus is on helping you heal, communicate more effectively, and rebuild trust—whether you’re coming as a couple or seeking individual clarity.
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Our approach is rooted in empathy, proven frameworks, and practical skills: we meet bi-weekly, explore old patterns, identify triggers, and coach you in creating healthier relationship habits. We believe transformative change is possible when you feel seen, heard, and are willing to do the work.
